Mojalefa, Gofejane, and the Cage: Reflections on Family, Anxiety, and Inheritance
Bra Peter reflects on how colonial/apartheid cages, anxious mothering, sibling rivalry and narcissistic survival modes created intergenerational prisons in South African townships.
Jimmy Can’t Survive in Jo’burg: The Death of the African Self
Let’s stop lying to ourselves. Apartheid might be dead on paper, but its ghost is still running the country. And no, it’s not just the white legacy — it’s this ANC government too. These so-called leaders are continuing the project. Black skin, white masks. Oppression wrapped in BEE. They tell us we are free, but […]
The Absence of Roman and Jewish Proverbs: A Reflection on Intelligence and Identity
There is something curious about the history of proverbs. Many cultures, such as the Chinese, Japanese, and various African nations, have a rich tradition of passing wisdom through proverbs—short, potent expressions of collective intelligence that guide social behavior and thought. Yet, when one looks for Roman or Jewish proverbs, they are noticeably absent. This absence […]
Title: The Shared Playbook of Abusers, Racists, and Malignant Narcissists
Introduction In life, certain patterns become impossible to ignore. The more you observe, the clearer it becomes: abusers, racists, and malignant narcissists follow the same psychological playbook. They deny harm, shift blame, and refuse to take responsibility—even when the damage is undeniable. This behavior is not just personal; it extends to historical injustices, family dynamics, […]
Stepping Into the Light: A Call to Action for South Africans
South Africans, it’s time we have an honest conversation. I have no kind words for the ANC or its president, Cyril Ramaphosa, who happens to be my president by default as a citizen of this country. Yet, I must acknowledge a single, bold move that stands out: on 28 May 2024, Ramaphosa signed the Cannabis […]
Perspectives Versus Reality: The Dance Between Truth and Light
Imagine a piece of paper on the floor with a “6” written on it. To someone standing on the opposite side, it is a “9.” Both individuals might argue, with equal passion, that their perspective is the truth. But here’s the question: Is truth a matter of perspective, or does reality exist independent of how […]
Reclaiming Our Balance: A Challenge for 2025
As 2025 approaches, it’s time for South Africans to take a hard look at ourselves, our society, and the systems we navigate. The world is fast-paced and competitive, and we live in a capitalist environment that often rewards self-promotion, power, and even selfishness. But where does that leave humility, compassion, and the values that truly […]
Apartheid: My Definition
Apartheid is often defined as a legalized system of racial segregation enforced in South Africa from 1948 to the early 1990s. The word, derived from the Afrikaans term for “separateness,” captures only a fraction of what this system meant for Black South Africans. Although apartheid officially ended in the early 1990s, its social and economic […]